Tomorrow it will be exactly one week since we started the "crying it out" technique. I have to say, I was really apprehensive about doing it, like REALLY apprehensive. But, it had to be done. Before trying this, I would cringe when I thought about night time and bed time. Hudson was so sweet during the day, and our days were fun, but when night fall came, I wanted it to be day time again. It took me hours to get him to sleep and back to sleep. over and over. never getting a break. And sometimes (more like most of the time) I'd give up and just bring him into our bedroom because it was much easier, and he'd actually sleep there! But, he'd usually end up kicking Jordan out of the bed and onto the couch. Literally, Jordan would wake up with Hudson, asleep, while pushing Jordan's back or kicking it. OR he'd wake us because he would turn his head to the right and then to the left. over and over. still asleep, mind you, but acting like he needed more space and was trying to get comfortable. This kid is hilarious! So, you can see why we needed this, or at least had to try it out.
This process is not fun! not one bit. But has been my saving grace. The first night, after doing our bedtime routine: bath, jammies, nursing and songs, he cried for an hour and a half. Thought I was going to die. It took everything I had to not go pick him up. After that night his crying decreased more each night. fifty minutes, then thirty, twenty, twelve, ten and five. During each cry session I'd always bring up to Jordan how "Hudson probably thinks we've abandoned him and that we're never coming back! and what if the stress of him crying interferes with his brain development?" I came up with every little excuse possible. anything to get me in his room and comforting him. Jordan would quickly correct me. lovingly. About this process. He helped me realize how "crying it out" wasn't just for our sanity, but Hudson's, too. Waking up six or seven times a night for a baby isn't good either. True. Jordan also helped me feel better about this process by relating it to the gospel. [[Loved this thought he shared.]] He brought up Heavenly Father, and how He sometimes gives us hard things because they will teach us and help us grow. And during these hard times He watches us and knows our feelings about them. But, he doesn't take them away. at least not until they have changed us in the way He wanted them to. And that's us right now. Doing a hard thing; hearing him cry, but knowing how great and helpful this will be soon. for Hudson and us. and it has! He is sleeping until almost 4 am every night and is a much happier baby during the day. His naps are even better and more regular.
So for those who aren't too sure about "crying it out," maybe try it? I was scared. oh so scared. But, it saved us. and now I have my nights and time with my husband. and Heavenly Father will help you. I know it!
Oh! and did I mention how soundly they sleep? I love checking in on Hud and seeing him fast asleep and glowing in the dark (his jammies glow in the dark. cutest. thing. ever.).
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